Lessons Learned.......
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This one is for the ladies!
I often hear that it is hard to find a "man". That men are seemingly a lost and should be put on the endangered species list. The lie is that women outnumber men 10:1, 20:1, 30:1. Really?
My first reaction to that is that is just stupid and insulting. First of all, it suggests that God the Creator is not bright enough to create a man for every woman. That some how the most important relationship in existence has to be compromised due to a short age in the human species. Without doing any research or having any credible statistics that notion just did not resonate with me. It is a lie that is perpetuated by men (of course) in an effort get women to settle for sharing them in relationships. When a man is cheating that unfortunately in one of is defenses. He often says how hard it will be to replace him. It is rooted in fear and the woman that buys into the lie is often grounded in low self esteem and self worth. Plagued with doubting questions about her ability to secure a committed, exclusive relationship with an honest man that is monogamous and faithful. It also is a daunting testament of the fact that so many women settle (been there, done that) and is blinded by her vision of what she wants as opposed to seeing the situation for what it is. Having a cheating, lying, self absorbed man is better than no man at all? Right? At least he comes home at night? Really? He really does love me? Oh, okay.
I remember when my ex-husband was packing he chimed that in Atlanta there were 22 single woman to every man. My response, "Negro, please. There are not 21 of me walking around anywhere. Here, or anywhere else". I meet men everywhere and there definitely is no shortage. It is all about perception.
So here are the stats according to GEOHIVE.
There are 6,829,360,438 billion people in the world.
3,442,850,573 50.4 % women
3,386,509,865 49.5% men
Wow. Look at that. So we can reasonably conclude there is a man for every woman. Now, regionally the stats may differ so one may have to branch outside of their community to extend their dating pool but make no mistake about it, God has a created partner for you and there is NO lack in God and he won't be attached to somebody else when you meet him. So if you met your man when he was someone elses man and you think you won him, you are stuck on stupid. There is no honor in deception and you will lose him how you got him so do not fall for the okey doke. God has somebody for you. Don't believe the non-sense and when God sends a man, that man will look like God and you won't have to beg him to come home at night. You will not be plagued by a gut wrenching fear that he will surely do to you what he did to the woman he was with when he met you. Stop being lead around silly, laden and captive. Believe that you are beautifully, fearfully and wonderfully made and there is no other like you. Have honor, integrity and decency. Men will treat you how you allow them to treat you. He can only sell what you are willing to buy.
My first reaction to that is that is just stupid and insulting. First of all, it suggests that God the Creator is not bright enough to create a man for every woman. That some how the most important relationship in existence has to be compromised due to a short age in the human species. Without doing any research or having any credible statistics that notion just did not resonate with me. It is a lie that is perpetuated by men (of course) in an effort get women to settle for sharing them in relationships. When a man is cheating that unfortunately in one of is defenses. He often says how hard it will be to replace him. It is rooted in fear and the woman that buys into the lie is often grounded in low self esteem and self worth. Plagued with doubting questions about her ability to secure a committed, exclusive relationship with an honest man that is monogamous and faithful. It also is a daunting testament of the fact that so many women settle (been there, done that) and is blinded by her vision of what she wants as opposed to seeing the situation for what it is. Having a cheating, lying, self absorbed man is better than no man at all? Right? At least he comes home at night? Really? He really does love me? Oh, okay.
I remember when my ex-husband was packing he chimed that in Atlanta there were 22 single woman to every man. My response, "Negro, please. There are not 21 of me walking around anywhere. Here, or anywhere else". I meet men everywhere and there definitely is no shortage. It is all about perception.
So here are the stats according to GEOHIVE.
There are 6,829,360,438 billion people in the world.
3,442,850,573 50.4 % women
3,386,509,865 49.5% men
Wow. Look at that. So we can reasonably conclude there is a man for every woman. Now, regionally the stats may differ so one may have to branch outside of their community to extend their dating pool but make no mistake about it, God has a created partner for you and there is NO lack in God and he won't be attached to somebody else when you meet him. So if you met your man when he was someone elses man and you think you won him, you are stuck on stupid. There is no honor in deception and you will lose him how you got him so do not fall for the okey doke. God has somebody for you. Don't believe the non-sense and when God sends a man, that man will look like God and you won't have to beg him to come home at night. You will not be plagued by a gut wrenching fear that he will surely do to you what he did to the woman he was with when he met you. Stop being lead around silly, laden and captive. Believe that you are beautifully, fearfully and wonderfully made and there is no other like you. Have honor, integrity and decency. Men will treat you how you allow them to treat you. He can only sell what you are willing to buy.
Inspired!
And those that were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those that could not hear the music. -Neitzche
I read this quote a few days ago and it stuck a cord in my soul. For some reason, it seemed to capture my essence. I laughed because I have been seen dancing when no one could hear music but me. it's funny because my daughter Hannah is the same. Often she is dancing when no audible music is playing. I say to her all the time, "dance to your own tune baby. Dance".
So it is. I am writing my own life script. No longer will I be enslaved to someone else's role. I am silencing all the voices around me that declare who and what I should be. My God created me tailor designed for my role and my purpose. I was intrically created for my world. I have concluded that not everyone is not going to like me or accept me. I cannot live life tryiing to win a popularity contest. I have to be true to my God and myself. I
I am embracing my gifts, my talents, my shortcomings and my weaknesses. All of me (the good, the bad and the ugly) is who I am. I am singing, dancing and serenading my life. I am committed to living passionately and freely and I will dance when no one else hears my music.
I read this quote a few days ago and it stuck a cord in my soul. For some reason, it seemed to capture my essence. I laughed because I have been seen dancing when no one could hear music but me. it's funny because my daughter Hannah is the same. Often she is dancing when no audible music is playing. I say to her all the time, "dance to your own tune baby. Dance".
So it is. I am writing my own life script. No longer will I be enslaved to someone else's role. I am silencing all the voices around me that declare who and what I should be. My God created me tailor designed for my role and my purpose. I was intrically created for my world. I have concluded that not everyone is not going to like me or accept me. I cannot live life tryiing to win a popularity contest. I have to be true to my God and myself. I
I am embracing my gifts, my talents, my shortcomings and my weaknesses. All of me (the good, the bad and the ugly) is who I am. I am singing, dancing and serenading my life. I am committed to living passionately and freely and I will dance when no one else hears my music.
FOCUS!
I used to run track in school and I remember the vigorous training we went through before a meet. Our track conditioning was intense. We use to run for miles and miles and I was a sprint runner and could not understand why I had to run so long. My average race was over in less than a minute-two at the most. My coach told me that I had to run twenty times longer than my average race to build endurance and strength! He said it was apart of my conditioning. I have to train my body to endure, to press, to push!
After our conditions, my entire body would ache. It seemed like we ran forever but it made me stronger. I still have that tone in my arms and legs 25 years later! We ran in the snow, rain, sleet, hail, whatever. He never cancelled our conditions or our meets. I remember we were trained to accomplish our objectives. It did not matter what the elements were. It did not matter if we were tired or if our bodies ached. My coach did not allow any outside influences or factors to interfere with our training.
Today, I realized that I need to re-adapt that mindset. I have been so distracted with outside factors and issues I allowed myself to lose focus. It is so easy to do but today, I cement my eyes on the prize. I have the baton in my hand and all I can see is the mark in front of me. I am now in position. I have to finish my race. Ready, set, GO!
After our conditions, my entire body would ache. It seemed like we ran forever but it made me stronger. I still have that tone in my arms and legs 25 years later! We ran in the snow, rain, sleet, hail, whatever. He never cancelled our conditions or our meets. I remember we were trained to accomplish our objectives. It did not matter what the elements were. It did not matter if we were tired or if our bodies ached. My coach did not allow any outside influences or factors to interfere with our training.
Today, I realized that I need to re-adapt that mindset. I have been so distracted with outside factors and issues I allowed myself to lose focus. It is so easy to do but today, I cement my eyes on the prize. I have the baton in my hand and all I can see is the mark in front of me. I am now in position. I have to finish my race. Ready, set, GO!
You got to go through to come out!
People ask all the time what is the secret to being an overcomer? How do you triump over adversity? Well, the answer is you trust God, you trust God and you keep walking until you come out. It really is that simple. You do not give up and you do not believe the enemies report regarding your situation.
You do not accept the lie that you are a victim and that God does not care about you. You do not settle for the crumbs from anyone's table and you press on towards the mark. What is the mark? The mark is your vision for the type of life you want. The mark is what you are believing God to manifest in your life but you have to be courageous enough to let go and or walk away from what opposes the vision you have. trust me, there is something or someone opposing the vision.
You cannot be in Egypt and the Promise Land at the same time. You have to make a decision. "This is the mess I have but this is the life I want". Once you make the decision, you cannot be wishy washy or double minded. You have to develop and implement a plan that will produce the results or the life you want. God does not drop anything out of the sky! Yes, you have to have faith but the Word of God says that faith without works is dead. So you have to do something and the something is execute a well thought out life plan that will produce the life you want. Also, a key thing to remember is that you should never be on a course that God has not set you on. That will not prosper. So, it is possible to have a life plan and be in the process of executing it and get frustrating results. Why? Because God the Father will not bless YOUR plan. HE will however, prosper and bless us when we are obedient to HIS will for our life. So to make this plain, if He has called someone to be a school teacher and they want to be an engineer, then more than likely they will be a terrible or mediocre engineer because that is NOT what the Father has purposed for them to do. So the biggest piece of the puzzle is discovering what it is you are purposed to do. Some people are born knowing. Others, it takes longer but that is the key. Discover who you are and get busy being who you are.
You will have to make some hard decisions and tough choices. You may have to walk away from some people. places and things but freedom and victory will cost you something! Do not look at what you may have to walk away from of give up. Only concentrate on the freedom, victory and power you will receive by evolving into your very best self! How sweet life is when one is doing what they were created to do and being who God says they are!
You do not accept the lie that you are a victim and that God does not care about you. You do not settle for the crumbs from anyone's table and you press on towards the mark. What is the mark? The mark is your vision for the type of life you want. The mark is what you are believing God to manifest in your life but you have to be courageous enough to let go and or walk away from what opposes the vision you have. trust me, there is something or someone opposing the vision.
You cannot be in Egypt and the Promise Land at the same time. You have to make a decision. "This is the mess I have but this is the life I want". Once you make the decision, you cannot be wishy washy or double minded. You have to develop and implement a plan that will produce the results or the life you want. God does not drop anything out of the sky! Yes, you have to have faith but the Word of God says that faith without works is dead. So you have to do something and the something is execute a well thought out life plan that will produce the life you want. Also, a key thing to remember is that you should never be on a course that God has not set you on. That will not prosper. So, it is possible to have a life plan and be in the process of executing it and get frustrating results. Why? Because God the Father will not bless YOUR plan. HE will however, prosper and bless us when we are obedient to HIS will for our life. So to make this plain, if He has called someone to be a school teacher and they want to be an engineer, then more than likely they will be a terrible or mediocre engineer because that is NOT what the Father has purposed for them to do. So the biggest piece of the puzzle is discovering what it is you are purposed to do. Some people are born knowing. Others, it takes longer but that is the key. Discover who you are and get busy being who you are.
You will have to make some hard decisions and tough choices. You may have to walk away from some people. places and things but freedom and victory will cost you something! Do not look at what you may have to walk away from of give up. Only concentrate on the freedom, victory and power you will receive by evolving into your very best self! How sweet life is when one is doing what they were created to do and being who God says they are!
Dreams do come true.
Sitting and watching my dreams single handedly come true is pretty amazing...............................
2010 The year of manifestation!
Last year was an incredible year for me. I accomplished one of my hearts desires which was to publish a book and began the ministry that God had placed in my heart over 20 years ago. Those decisions required me to step out on faith. This year, is going to be even more incredible. As I prepare for the book to become a stage play, and in the infancy stages of book number 2, my heart is filled with gratitude. I am simply in awe of all the exiting things that are before me.
There are more exiting things in the works that I am not at liberty to share but this I know for sure. In order to get something you have never gotten before you have to do something you have never done. So this year is the year I am going to walk on water. I am going to allow myself to trust the hand of God and hold on to Him and go where He leads. Everything God has promised me is coming to pass. Delay does not mean denial. Every promise will be fulfilled. Everything the enemy has stolen or held up is being released. Everything Satan has stolen, he has to restore seven fold. It is non-negotiable. He has to pay it back. PAY DAY is at hand!
I want to encourage you to believe in yourself and know that nothing is impossible in God. Make 2010 your year. We are co-laborers in Christ. He will do His part but we have to do ours. Have faith. Dream. Believe. Soar. Achieve. But this thing is key. In order to move forward you have to let go off the past. It's hurts, disappointments, and any unforgiveness. Unforgiveness will rob you of authentic peace and nothing you will do will yield your desired results because God turns a deaf ear to an unforgiving heart.
So let whatever it is go so you can move on in victory! 2010 make it your year. Hopefully, I will see you when you get there!
There are more exiting things in the works that I am not at liberty to share but this I know for sure. In order to get something you have never gotten before you have to do something you have never done. So this year is the year I am going to walk on water. I am going to allow myself to trust the hand of God and hold on to Him and go where He leads. Everything God has promised me is coming to pass. Delay does not mean denial. Every promise will be fulfilled. Everything the enemy has stolen or held up is being released. Everything Satan has stolen, he has to restore seven fold. It is non-negotiable. He has to pay it back. PAY DAY is at hand!
I want to encourage you to believe in yourself and know that nothing is impossible in God. Make 2010 your year. We are co-laborers in Christ. He will do His part but we have to do ours. Have faith. Dream. Believe. Soar. Achieve. But this thing is key. In order to move forward you have to let go off the past. It's hurts, disappointments, and any unforgiveness. Unforgiveness will rob you of authentic peace and nothing you will do will yield your desired results because God turns a deaf ear to an unforgiving heart.
So let whatever it is go so you can move on in victory! 2010 make it your year. Hopefully, I will see you when you get there!
Merry Christmas!
I want to extend a very MERRY CHRISTMAS to my virtual family. May love, peace, goodness, joy and the Love of the Father abound.
May you embrace the very precious gift that He has given us all. The Gift of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. HE is the reason for the season. Eat good, play hard, love harder, kiss, hug, embrace. Fall out in the floor full of laughter, run around the house after your children, gaze into your partner's eyes and ENJOY................................the moment. Tomorrow is not promised. All we have is right now.
I am LOVING my right now!
May you embrace the very precious gift that He has given us all. The Gift of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. HE is the reason for the season. Eat good, play hard, love harder, kiss, hug, embrace. Fall out in the floor full of laughter, run around the house after your children, gaze into your partner's eyes and ENJOY................................the moment. Tomorrow is not promised. All we have is right now.
I am LOVING my right now!
Abundance is my birthright!
For the first time in a very long time I am experiencing increase and overflow. I was in Macy's today, buying Hannah two lamb fur coats (If Mommy is rocking fur, the Princess has to rock fur) and when I swiped my debit card, I pulled out my checkbook to record the entry and I stopped as I reminded myself that I have more than enough. God has exceeded my needs and my expectations. I closed my checkbook and hit several more departments before I left the store. Hannah was in tow, smiling brightly as she held on to her Macy's bags from her stroller (LOL).
All I can say is GOD IS GOOD. I know what it is like to have to weather financial storms and have setbacks. I know what it is like to have to make tough decisions but I have learned that God is able. King David said "I have never seen the righteous forsaken or his seed begging bread" and because I am the righteousness of God neither one of this things have occurred. I have soooooooooooo many testimonies about God's provision and miracle working Hand, about a two years ago I started a "Miracle Journal". It is there were I have recorded all the supernatural and amazing things God has done for me.
All I can say is GOD IS GOOD. I know what it is like to have to weather financial storms and have setbacks. I know what it is like to have to make tough decisions but I have learned that God is able. King David said "I have never seen the righteous forsaken or his seed begging bread" and because I am the righteousness of God neither one of this things have occurred. I have soooooooooooo many testimonies about God's provision and miracle working Hand, about a two years ago I started a "Miracle Journal". It is there were I have recorded all the supernatural and amazing things God has done for me.
The steps of a righteous man are ordered by the Lord.
This time of year, I get very reflective. I sit back and evaluate my life. My ups, downs, accomplishments, defeats, highs and lows and as I am doing so now, I have concluded that my life is good! Every thing I have done and been through has helped shape and mold the woman that I am. I am not proud of everything I have done but I am proud of who I am.
It is easy to get caught up in regret and play the role of victim when life serves you what you have sowed and it is retribution time. It is easy to have a pity party when the consequences of your actions slap you in the face and you are forced to altar your course. I have made plenty of perceived mistakes. I have made some bad decisions. I have lapsed in judgment (I am far from perfect) but the BIBLE says that the steps of a righteous man are ordered of God. I am righteous not because of myself or my works (that is a joke) but because of Christ Jesus, His blood and the Father's mercy. So because I am deemed righteous through salvation, I lay claim to this scripture and can be in absolute peace as I journey. My steps are ordered. Where I go is ordered. My path is pre-set.....so God is not surprised about my revelations along the way. I may be shocked but He is not. So this holiday season, as I prepare for 2010...I celebrate where I have been because it is the platform, the foundation for where I am going. 2009 was the year of birthing, 2010 is my year of promise. So much of what the Father has promised me is already in fruition...I can see the buds on the tree, the promise is at hand. So be encouraged and know that it is in the valley that God prepares, shapes, reveals and deals. He wants to expose what is in our hearts so we can be delivered and set free. He will not allow us to take certain things and certain people into the promise. He has to allow life to shake us so we can let it go.......but the choice is ultimately ours.
This year I have been overwhelmed with lessons.....and they continue but one thing is for sure.. I know the path that I am on is destined and ordained for me. My steps are ordered. My lessons are tailor designed.....so I do not have one regret. Nope, not one. This is my journey and it is one hell of a ride.....and despite it all I am enjoying every moment of it!
It is easy to get caught up in regret and play the role of victim when life serves you what you have sowed and it is retribution time. It is easy to have a pity party when the consequences of your actions slap you in the face and you are forced to altar your course. I have made plenty of perceived mistakes. I have made some bad decisions. I have lapsed in judgment (I am far from perfect) but the BIBLE says that the steps of a righteous man are ordered of God. I am righteous not because of myself or my works (that is a joke) but because of Christ Jesus, His blood and the Father's mercy. So because I am deemed righteous through salvation, I lay claim to this scripture and can be in absolute peace as I journey. My steps are ordered. Where I go is ordered. My path is pre-set.....so God is not surprised about my revelations along the way. I may be shocked but He is not. So this holiday season, as I prepare for 2010...I celebrate where I have been because it is the platform, the foundation for where I am going. 2009 was the year of birthing, 2010 is my year of promise. So much of what the Father has promised me is already in fruition...I can see the buds on the tree, the promise is at hand. So be encouraged and know that it is in the valley that God prepares, shapes, reveals and deals. He wants to expose what is in our hearts so we can be delivered and set free. He will not allow us to take certain things and certain people into the promise. He has to allow life to shake us so we can let it go.......but the choice is ultimately ours.
This year I have been overwhelmed with lessons.....and they continue but one thing is for sure.. I know the path that I am on is destined and ordained for me. My steps are ordered. My lessons are tailor designed.....so I do not have one regret. Nope, not one. This is my journey and it is one hell of a ride.....and despite it all I am enjoying every moment of it!
IT'S PLAY TIME!
WELL PEOPLE IT IS OFFICIAL, MY BOOK THE OTHER WOMAN, LESSONS LEARNED WILL BE FEATURED ON A STAGE NEAR YOU SOON!!!!! YES, YES, YES!
THE PLAY IS ON THE WAY AND THE FIRST SHOW TENTATIVELY WILL BE FALL/WINTER OF 2010. OH MY GOD, GOD IS GOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM SO EXITED I CAN HARDLY STAND IT. SO MUCH TO DO....ASSEMBLING THE TEAM, AUDITIONS, CASTINGS, ETC.
I AM AMAZED AT HOW GOD WILL SHUT THE MOUTHS OF YOUR HATERS AND CRACK THEIR HEADS AND FACES! HE WILL PREPARE A TABLE BEFORE YOU IN THE PRESENCE OF YOUR ENEMIES. HE WILL BLESS YOU AND BLESS YOU AND GIVE THEM MORE TO TALK ABOUT. BUT GUESS WHAT Y'ALL, THROUGH IT ALL I AM NOT BITTER. MY HEART IS NOT ANGRY, I AM NOT MOVED. I AM LITERALLY LAUGHING IN SATAN'S FACE. I AM A VICTOR IN CHRIST.......MY LIFE LESSONS ARE LESSONS FOR THE WORLD!
THE OTHER WOMAN....HITTING A STAGE NEAR YOU SOON. FIRST SHOW OF COURSE WILL BE HERE IN THE ATL....WHERE IT ALL HAPPENED. THE MAN, THE AFFAIR, THE BABY, THE DRAMA, THE MESS AND THE MESSAGE!
TICKLED RED!
THE PLAY IS ON THE WAY AND THE FIRST SHOW TENTATIVELY WILL BE FALL/WINTER OF 2010. OH MY GOD, GOD IS GOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM SO EXITED I CAN HARDLY STAND IT. SO MUCH TO DO....ASSEMBLING THE TEAM, AUDITIONS, CASTINGS, ETC.
I AM AMAZED AT HOW GOD WILL SHUT THE MOUTHS OF YOUR HATERS AND CRACK THEIR HEADS AND FACES! HE WILL PREPARE A TABLE BEFORE YOU IN THE PRESENCE OF YOUR ENEMIES. HE WILL BLESS YOU AND BLESS YOU AND GIVE THEM MORE TO TALK ABOUT. BUT GUESS WHAT Y'ALL, THROUGH IT ALL I AM NOT BITTER. MY HEART IS NOT ANGRY, I AM NOT MOVED. I AM LITERALLY LAUGHING IN SATAN'S FACE. I AM A VICTOR IN CHRIST.......MY LIFE LESSONS ARE LESSONS FOR THE WORLD!
THE OTHER WOMAN....HITTING A STAGE NEAR YOU SOON. FIRST SHOW OF COURSE WILL BE HERE IN THE ATL....WHERE IT ALL HAPPENED. THE MAN, THE AFFAIR, THE BABY, THE DRAMA, THE MESS AND THE MESSAGE!
TICKLED RED!