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This one is for the ladies!

2010-06-23T14:29:00Z

I often hear that it is hard to find a "man". That men are seemingly a lost and should be put on the endangered species list. The lie is that women outnumber men 10:1, 20:1, 30:1. Really?

My first reaction to that is that is just stupid and insulting. First of all, it suggests that God the Creator is not bright enough to create a man for every woman. That some how the most important relationship in existence has to be compromised due to a short age in the human species. Without doing any research or having any credible statistics that notion just did not resonate with me. It is a lie that is perpetuated by men (of course) in an effort get women to settle for sharing them in relationships. When a man is cheating that unfortunately in one of is defenses. He often says how hard it will be to replace him. It is rooted in fear and the woman that buys into the lie is often grounded in low self esteem and self worth. Plagued with doubting questions about her ability to secure a committed, exclusive relationship with an honest man that is monogamous and faithful. It also is a daunting testament of the fact that so many women settle (been there, done that) and is blinded by her vision of what she wants as opposed to seeing the situation for what it is. Having a cheating, lying, self absorbed man is better than no man at all? Right? At least he comes home at night? Really? He really does love me? Oh, okay.

I remember when my ex-husband was packing he chimed that in Atlanta there were 22 single woman to every man. My response, "Negro, please. There are not 21 of me walking around anywhere. Here, or anywhere else". I meet men everywhere and there definitely is no shortage. It is all about perception.

So here are the stats according to GEOHIVE.

There are 6,829,360,438 billion people in the world.
3,442,850,573 50.4 % women
3,386,509,865 49.5% men

Wow. Look at that. So we can reasonably conclude there is a man for every woman. Now, regionally the stats may differ so one may have to branch outside of their community to extend their dating pool but make no mistake about it, God has a created partner for you and there is NO lack in God and he won't be attached to somebody else when you meet him. So if you met your man when he was someone elses man and you think you won him, you are stuck on stupid. There is no honor in deception and you will lose him how you got him so do not fall for the okey doke. God has somebody for you. Don't believe the non-sense and when God sends a man, that man will look like God and you won't have to beg him to come home at night. You will not be plagued by a gut wrenching fear that he will surely do to you what he did to the woman he was with when he met you. Stop being lead around silly, laden and captive. Believe that you are beautifully, fearfully and wonderfully made and there is no other like you. Have honor, integrity and decency. Men will treat you how you allow them to treat you. He can only sell what you are willing to buy.

Inspired!

2010-06-18T19:46:32Z

And those that were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those that could not hear the music. -Neitzche

I read this quote a few days ago and it stuck a cord in my soul. For some reason, it seemed to capture my essence. I laughed because I have been seen dancing when no one could hear music but me. it's funny because my daughter Hannah is the same. Often she is dancing when no audible music is playing. I say to her all the time, "dance to your own tune baby. Dance".

So it is. I am writing my own life script. No longer will I be enslaved to someone else's role. I am silencing all the voices around me that declare who and what I should be. My God created me tailor designed for my role and my purpose. I was intrically created for my world. I have concluded that not everyone is not going to like me or accept me. I cannot live life tryiing to win a popularity contest. I have to be true to my God and myself. I

I am embracing my gifts, my talents, my shortcomings and my weaknesses. All of me (the good, the bad and the ugly) is who I am. I am singing, dancing and serenading my life. I am committed to living passionately and freely and I will dance when no one else hears my music.

FOCUS!

2010-06-15T16:22:00Z

I used to run track in school and I remember the vigorous training we went through before a meet. Our track conditioning was intense. We use to run for miles and miles and I was a sprint runner and could not understand why I had to run so long. My average race was over in less than a minute-two at the most. My coach told me that I had to run twenty times longer than my average race to build endurance and strength! He said it was apart of my conditioning. I have to train my body to endure, to press, to push!

After our conditions, my entire body would ache. It seemed like we ran forever but it made me stronger. I still have that tone in my arms and legs 25 years later! We ran in the snow, rain, sleet, hail, whatever. He never cancelled our conditions or our meets. I remember we were trained to accomplish our objectives. It did not matter what the elements were. It did not matter if we were tired or if our bodies ached. My coach did not allow any outside influences or factors to interfere with our training.

Today, I realized that I need to re-adapt that mindset. I have been so distracted with outside factors and issues I allowed myself to lose focus. It is so easy to do but today, I cement my eyes on the prize. I have the baton in my hand and all I can see is the mark in front of me. I am now in position. I have to finish my race. Ready, set, GO!

You got to go through to come out!

2010-04-05T19:01:00Z

People ask all the time what is the secret to being an overcomer? How do you triump over adversity? Well, the answer is you trust God, you trust God and you keep walking until you come out. It really is that simple. You do not give up and you do not believe the enemies report regarding your situation.

You do not accept the lie that you are a victim and that God does not care about you. You do not settle for the crumbs from anyone's table and you press on towards the mark. What is the mark? The mark is your vision for the type of life you want. The mark is what you are believing God to manifest in your life but you have to be courageous enough to let go and or walk away from what opposes the vision you have. trust me, there is something or someone opposing the vision.

You cannot be in Egypt and the Promise Land at the same time. You have to make a decision. "This is the mess I have but this is the life I want". Once you make the decision, you cannot be wishy washy or double minded. You have to develop and implement a plan that will produce the results or the life you want. God does not drop anything out of the sky! Yes, you have to have faith but the Word of God says that faith without works is dead. So you have to do something and the something is execute a well thought out life plan that will produce the life you want. Also, a key thing to remember is that you should never be on a course that God has not set you on. That will not prosper. So, it is possible to have a life plan and be in the process of executing it and get frustrating results. Why? Because God the Father will not bless YOUR plan. HE will however, prosper and bless us when we are obedient to HIS will for our life. So to make this plain, if He has called someone to be a school teacher and they want to be an engineer, then more than likely they will be a terrible or mediocre engineer because that is NOT what the Father has purposed for them to do. So the biggest piece of the puzzle is discovering what it is you are purposed to do. Some people are born knowing. Others, it takes longer but that is the key. Discover who you are and get busy being who you are.

You will have to make some hard decisions and tough choices. You may have to walk away from some people. places and things but freedom and victory will cost you something! Do not look at what you may have to walk away from of give up. Only concentrate on the freedom, victory and power you will receive by evolving into your very best self! How sweet life is when one is doing what they were created to do and being who God says they are!

Dreams do come true.

2010-01-29T20:57:00Z

Sitting and watching my dreams single handedly come true is pretty amazing...............................

2010 The year of manifestation!

2010-01-07T18:49:00Z

Last year was an incredible year for me. I accomplished one of my hearts desires which was to publish a book and began the ministry that God had placed in my heart over 20 years ago. Those decisions required me to step out on faith. This year, is going to be even more incredible. As I prepare for the book to become a stage play, and in the infancy stages of book number 2, my heart is filled with gratitude. I am simply in awe of all the exiting things that are before me.

There are more exiting things in the works that I am not at liberty to share but this I know for sure. In order to get something you have never gotten before you have to do something you have never done. So this year is the year I am going to walk on water. I am going to allow myself to trust the hand of God and hold on to Him and go where He leads. Everything God has promised me is coming to pass. Delay does not mean denial. Every promise will be fulfilled. Everything the enemy has stolen or held up is being released. Everything Satan has stolen, he has to restore seven fold. It is non-negotiable. He has to pay it back. PAY DAY is at hand!

I want to encourage you to believe in yourself and know that nothing is impossible in God. Make 2010 your year. We are co-laborers in Christ. He will do His part but we have to do ours. Have faith. Dream. Believe. Soar. Achieve. But this thing is key. In order to move forward you have to let go off the past. It's hurts, disappointments, and any unforgiveness. Unforgiveness will rob you of authentic peace and nothing you will do will yield your desired results because God turns a deaf ear to an unforgiving heart.

So let whatever it is go so you can move on in victory! 2010 make it your year. Hopefully, I will see you when you get there!

Merry Christmas!

2009-12-24T17:25:00Z

I want to extend a very MERRY CHRISTMAS to my virtual family. May love, peace, goodness, joy and the Love of the Father abound.
May you embrace the very precious gift that He has given us all. The Gift of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. HE is the reason for the season. Eat good, play hard, love harder, kiss, hug, embrace. Fall out in the floor full of laughter, run around the house after your children, gaze into your partner's eyes and ENJOY................................the moment. Tomorrow is not promised. All we have is right now.

I am LOVING my right now!

Abundance is my birthright!

2009-12-21T03:21:00Z

For the first time in a very long time I am experiencing increase and overflow. I was in Macy's today, buying Hannah two lamb fur coats (If Mommy is rocking fur, the Princess has to rock fur) and when I swiped my debit card, I pulled out my checkbook to record the entry and I stopped as I reminded myself that I have more than enough. God has exceeded my needs and my expectations. I closed my checkbook and hit several more departments before I left the store. Hannah was in tow, smiling brightly as she held on to her Macy's bags from her stroller (LOL).

All I can say is GOD IS GOOD. I know what it is like to have to weather financial storms and have setbacks. I know what it is like to have to make tough decisions but I have learned that God is able. King David said "I have never seen the righteous forsaken or his seed begging bread" and because I am the righteousness of God neither one of this things have occurred. I have soooooooooooo many testimonies about God's provision and miracle working Hand, about a two years ago I started a "Miracle Journal". It is there were I have recorded all the supernatural and amazing things God has done for me.

The steps of a righteous man are ordered by the Lord.

2009-12-17T05:27:00Z

This time of year, I get very reflective. I sit back and evaluate my life. My ups, downs, accomplishments, defeats, highs and lows and as I am doing so now, I have concluded that my life is good! Every thing I have done and been through has helped shape and mold the woman that I am. I am not proud of everything I have done but I am proud of who I am.

It is easy to get caught up in regret and play the role of victim when life serves you what you have sowed and it is retribution time. It is easy to have a pity party when the consequences of your actions slap you in the face and you are forced to altar your course. I have made plenty of perceived mistakes. I have made some bad decisions. I have lapsed in judgment (I am far from perfect) but the BIBLE says that the steps of a righteous man are ordered of God. I am righteous not because of myself or my works (that is a joke) but because of Christ Jesus, His blood and the Father's mercy. So because I am deemed righteous through salvation, I lay claim to this scripture and can be in absolute peace as I journey. My steps are ordered. Where I go is ordered. My path is pre-set.....so God is not surprised about my revelations along the way. I may be shocked but He is not. So this holiday season, as I prepare for 2010...I celebrate where I have been because it is the platform, the foundation for where I am going. 2009 was the year of birthing, 2010 is my year of promise. So much of what the Father has promised me is already in fruition...I can see the buds on the tree, the promise is at hand. So be encouraged and know that it is in the valley that God prepares, shapes, reveals and deals. He wants to expose what is in our hearts so we can be delivered and set free. He will not allow us to take certain things and certain people into the promise. He has to allow life to shake us so we can let it go.......but the choice is ultimately ours.

This year I have been overwhelmed with lessons.....and they continue but one thing is for sure.. I know the path that I am on is destined and ordained for me. My steps are ordered. My lessons are tailor designed.....so I do not have one regret. Nope, not one. This is my journey and it is one hell of a ride.....and despite it all I am enjoying every moment of it!

IT'S PLAY TIME!

2009-12-14T02:09:00Z

WELL PEOPLE IT IS OFFICIAL, MY BOOK THE OTHER WOMAN, LESSONS LEARNED WILL BE FEATURED ON A STAGE NEAR YOU SOON!!!!! YES, YES, YES!

THE PLAY IS ON THE WAY AND THE FIRST SHOW TENTATIVELY WILL BE FALL/WINTER OF 2010. OH MY GOD, GOD IS GOOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM SO EXITED I CAN HARDLY STAND IT. SO MUCH TO DO....ASSEMBLING THE TEAM, AUDITIONS, CASTINGS, ETC.
I AM AMAZED AT HOW GOD WILL SHUT THE MOUTHS OF YOUR HATERS AND CRACK THEIR HEADS AND FACES! HE WILL PREPARE A TABLE BEFORE YOU IN THE PRESENCE OF YOUR ENEMIES. HE WILL BLESS YOU AND BLESS YOU AND GIVE THEM MORE TO TALK ABOUT. BUT GUESS WHAT Y'ALL, THROUGH IT ALL I AM NOT BITTER. MY HEART IS NOT ANGRY, I AM NOT MOVED. I AM LITERALLY LAUGHING IN SATAN'S FACE. I AM A VICTOR IN CHRIST.......MY LIFE LESSONS ARE LESSONS FOR THE WORLD!

THE OTHER WOMAN....HITTING A STAGE NEAR YOU SOON. FIRST SHOW OF COURSE WILL BE HERE IN THE ATL....WHERE IT ALL HAPPENED. THE MAN, THE AFFAIR, THE BABY, THE DRAMA, THE MESS AND THE MESSAGE!

TICKLED RED!

The true meaning of Christmas

2009-12-07T16:58:00Z

What does Christmas mean to you? With all the holiday hype, it is easy for the message of Christmas to get lost. Christmas means Christ was, he was here and is. Many, would like to make it a day about gifts, and Santa, and parties and big celebrations and all of that is well and good but we cannot forget that because of the birth of Christ, we have a Savior that has redeemed us from sin and that is truly why we should celebrate!

I cannot image the mess my life would be without Jesus. His love, His grace, His forgiveness. His mercy. His provision. His kindness. His second chances. His gentleness. I have received the best gift ever, the gift of God's LOVE, now that is something to celebrate!!!!

Happy Thanksgiving!

2009-11-25T17:09:00Z

I am so thankful and grateful today and everyday. Our norms have changed, our times are changing or economy is doing it's own thing but I have learned that everything around me can change, shift and literally turn upside down. The world can lose it's collective mind but God is strong, He is steady, He is consistent, He is still very much in control....He has not surrendered His throne.

So I am thankful today because they that TRUST in the Lord will not be shaken and we will not be moved! I can dance with five cent to my name or five grand in my hand, I can sing with a freezer full of food or just pb&j, I will worship when all the bills are paid and when all of them are past due. My circumstances do not MOVE the hand of God, faith does!!!!! When I concentrate on the Father, everything else is everything else......

I am most thankful for my Worship! Nothing is better, nothing is sweeter, nothing is more fulfilling.....slow dancing with the Master....my, my, my!

What really matters?

2009-11-07T23:53:00Z

Last week I was booked to speak at a conference in Mississippi and I was exited about it and was ready to go. Unfortunately, a situation came up with my daughter and on top of the situation she was not feeling well. I had a decision to make which was to find someone else to care for her and nurse her will Mommy was away teaching or stay home. Well, God reminded me of what matters most and what was to come first. His instruction was my first ministry (all ministry means is service, I do not know why this word freaks people out so.....anywho) is to my family....my children. Their needs must come first. He reminded me that if I wanted to be a jet set all around the world personality, then I should have decided to be fried, died and tied! Children are not to be sacrificed for ministry or work of any kind. So I put away my lecture notes, the BAD suit I had planned to wear and all my books and study material.

"But Lord, I want to go" I whined. "Not this time, daughter. Not this time."
So the next morning when I was supposed to be teaching, praying, interceding, Hannah was in my bed with a runny nose and her head on my chest. She looked at me with those big ole eyes and said "Mommy...." that's all she said was "Mommy". I got really into her face so I could feel her breath and assured her that I would always be there to wipe her runny noses, put band aids on her boo-boo's and hear her first words.

I accepted the fact that I am in the season of my life where I will not be able to accept every invitation and go to every engagement. I have to prioritize and do what matters most so I have committed to only one engagement a month.....that is all I can do. And because I was obedient and did not leave my child God gave me a wonderful gift. A person that all ready helps care for Hannah will be my weekend Nanny....she can stay at my home and even travel with me. SAY WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! God u never cease to amaze me. Oh, the sweet rewards of learning to trust Him.

Trust Him. Go when he says go, stay when he says stay. Just do what HE says....He never ever fails and He is just waiting to bless your obedience.

Trust your gut! What God sends will draw you closer to him!

2009-09-30T02:09:00Z

When you start getting really close to birthing destiny, Satan gets really creative and will bring out the big guns. Deception dressed as "angels of light". He will start to send things and people strategically into your space in an attempt to altar your course. I have learned that things and people that God sends will ALWAYS draw you closer to God.

A new girlfriend on the job is not a god-send if all you all do is gossip and talk about people. A friend that God will send, will encourage you to do and be your best. You will spend your time participating in things that are constructive and not destructive.

A new opportunity that keeps you so exhausted that you cannot pray, worship or spend time with your children is a thing that has come to distract and detract you. Any opportunity that God sends will draw you closer to the things and the people that matter, not pull you away.

A man or woman that comes into your life that God sends, will not only look like him and talk like him but they will encourage you to be more like him. If a relationship desires to pull you deeper in sin then guess who DID NOT send it?

The closer you get to your resurrection, the harder the enemy of light will fight against you. He will send just what you want, how you want it, dressed in a package that surely will get your attention. Working on a book deal, just know that you will get a half dozen non sense offers before the real deal shows up. Trying to release a record, Slick Rick Flick will show up with a rubber contract ten times before someone authentic does. Opening your own business? Be prepared to run into scam before you get a slam dunk. That is just how it works....the counterfeits always show up before the real thing.....to dangle the carrot and distract you from seeing the FARM just up the road. Trust your gut. Trust your instincts. If something seems to good to be true it probably is. Don't fall for the Jack when a King is your destiny....contracts with the devil are easy to get into but very hard to get out of.

When the enemy of purpose starts raising the stakes and the temptations get bigger and better KNOW that you are sooooooooo close!!!! He will offer you a couple of stars in the sky banking you will take it....right before God offers you the universe!

Life quotes!

2009-09-07T15:05:00Z

"The first step in getting the things you want in life is this: Decide what you want". Ben Stein

Better is a dinner of herbs where love is, than a stalled ox and hatred therewith. Proverbs 15:17

Here instruction, and be wise and refuse it not. Proverbs 8:33

Oh, how I love you!

2009-07-23T18:31:00Z

Oh how I adore you
You are my Lord, my King
Your love is sweeter than honey
Richer than any trees salve
You take my hurt and impart your healing
You take my brokenness and create wholeness
Your love is overwhelming
At your feet is where one can find me
In the hem of your garment is such purity
I love you today more than ever
Thank you for taking care of me and exceeding my needs

I have had one to many lovers but you my God surpass them all
I can compare no one or nothing to you
Your love is so sweet
Your kindess is amazing
Your presence is intoxicating
The Lord of Lords, the King of Kings
Now, I understand why Mary poured precious oil on your feet
and wiped them with her hair
You are so good to me

I do not deserve you

yet you love me anyway

I am not sure what set this love affair I have with you in motion
Maybe it is my willingness to lay bare and exposed before you

Maybe it it because I pant for you or cry until my eyes are dry

Maybe it is because I worship u because of who you are and not for what you do

I am not sure but this I do know
I am not the same
I am at authentic peace and I am simply overwhelmed
My mind is being renewed
My heart is being prepared
Thank you for teaching me how to be.....

Evan and Hannah

2009-07-12T23:15:00Z

"Eagles do not fly with pigeons". Author unknown

2009-07-12T17:22:00Z

"Eagles do not fly with pigeons".

So true. Elevate your inner circle. Only surround yourself with well meaning and well intentioned people. Successful people will tell you that they key to recreating your life begins with association. Remember the old saying "birds of a feather flock together"?

Align yourself with people that are smarter and better than you are so you can grow. If you are the smartest person in the room that is a problem and you have pigeons around you!

Soar today....with the Eagles.

The Other Woman, Lessons Learned has touched so many

2009-07-11T23:32:00Z

I am so glad that I wrote this book. It has helped so many women and it has opened up dialog. I hope that as we are open and honest, we will begin on a journey towards healing and restoration.

My life has become an open book. I find myself sharing beyond the pages of the The Other Woman because I am seeing that the more I share, the more open and transparent I become the healthier I become. It is great to be in a place where you can expose yourself, your battles, your issues and dilemma's. Secrets are like cancer in the morrow of the bone. They eat you up from the inside out so TALK ABOUT IT!

Talk about whatever ails you, disappoints you or hurts you. Talk about the pains, the sorrows and well as the triumphs and victories. Talk about the victories too. Remembering what you have already overcome will be like hot air propelling you to soar above and over your current mountain.

Life quote

2009-06-29T03:17:15Z

"Everyday we have an opportunity to make right what needs to be right" DLP