What does Christmas mean to you? With all the holiday hype, it is easy for the message of Christmas to get lost. Christmas means Christ was, he was here and is. Many, would like to make it a day about gifts, and Santa, and parties and big celebrations and all of that is well and good but we cannot forget that because of the birth of Christ, we have a Savior that has redeemed us from sin and that is truly why we should celebrate!

I cannot image the mess my life would be without Jesus. His love, His grace, His forgiveness. His mercy. His provision. His kindness. His second chances. His gentleness. I have received the best gift ever, the gift of God's LOVE, now that is something to celebrate!!!!

I am so thankful and grateful today and everyday. Our norms have changed, our times are changing or economy is doing it's own thing but I have learned that everything around me can change, shift and literally turn upside down. The world can lose it's collective mind but God is strong, He is steady, He is consistent, He is still very much in control....He has not surrendered His throne.

So I am thankful today because they that TRUST in the Lord will not be shaken and we will not be moved! I can dance with five cent to my name or five grand in my hand, I can sing with a freezer full of food or just pb&j, I will worship when all the bills are paid and when all of them are past due. My circumstances do not MOVE the hand of God, faith does!!!!! When I concentrate on the Father, everything else is everything else......

I am most thankful for my Worship! Nothing is better, nothing is sweeter, nothing is more fulfilling.....slow dancing with the Master....my, my, my!

Last week I was booked to speak at a conference in Mississippi and I  was exited about it and was ready to go. Unfortunately, a situation came up with my daughter and on top of the situation she was not feeling well. I had a decision to make which was to find someone else to care for her and nurse her will Mommy was away teaching or stay home. Well,  God reminded me of what matters most and what was to come first. His instruction was my first ministry (all ministry means is service, I do not know why this word freaks people out so.....anywho) is to my family....my children. Their needs must come first. He reminded me that if I wanted to be a jet set all around the world personality, then I should have decided to be fried, died and tied! Children are not to be sacrificed for ministry or work of any kind. So I put away my lecture notes, the BAD suit I had planned to wear and all my books and study material.

"But Lord, I want to go" I whined. "Not this time, daughter. Not this time."
So the next  morning when I was supposed to be teaching, praying, interceding, Hannah was in my bed with a runny nose and her head on my chest. She looked at me with those big ole eyes and said "Mommy...." that's all she said was "Mommy". I got really into her face so I could feel her breath and assured her that I would always be there to wipe her runny noses, put band aids on her boo-boo's and hear her first words.

I accepted the fact that I am in the season of my life where I will not be able to accept every invitation and go to every engagement. I have to prioritize and do what matters most so I have committed to only one engagement a month.....that is all I can do. And because I was obedient and did not leave my child God gave me a wonderful gift.  A person that all ready helps care for Hannah will be my weekend Nanny....she can stay at my home and even travel with me. SAY WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! God u never cease to amaze me. Oh, the sweet rewards of learning to trust Him.

Trust Him. Go when he says go, stay when he says stay. Just do what HE says....He never ever fails and He is just waiting to bless your obedience.

When you start getting really close to birthing destiny, Satan gets really creative and will bring out the big guns. Deception dressed as "angels of light". He will start to send things and people strategically into your space in an attempt to altar your course. I have learned that things and people that God sends will ALWAYS draw you closer to God.

A new girlfriend on the job is not a god-send if all you all do is gossip and talk about people. A friend that God will send, will encourage you to do and be your best. You will spend your time participating in things that are constructive and not destructive.

A new opportunity that keeps you so exhausted that you cannot pray, worship or spend time with your children is a thing that has come to distract and detract you. Any opportunity that God sends will draw you closer to the things and the people that matter, not pull you away.

A man or woman that comes into your life that God sends, will not only look like him and talk like him but they will encourage you to be more like him. If a relationship desires to pull you deeper in sin then guess who DID NOT send it?

The closer you get to your resurrection, the harder the enemy of light will fight against you. He will send just what you want, how you want it, dressed in a package that surely will get your attention. Working on a book deal, just know that you will get a half dozen non sense offers before the real deal shows up. Trying to release a record, Slick Rick Flick will show up with a rubber contract ten times before someone authentic does. Opening your own business? Be prepared to run into scam before you get a slam dunk. That is just how it works....the counterfeits always show up before the real thing.....to dangle the carrot and distract you from seeing the FARM just up the road. Trust your gut. Trust your instincts. If something seems to good to be true it probably is. Don't fall for the Jack when a King is your destiny....contracts with the devil are easy to get into but very hard to get out of.

When the enemy of purpose starts raising the stakes and the temptations get bigger and better KNOW that you are sooooooooo close!!!! He will offer you a couple of stars in the sky banking you will take it....right before God offers you the universe!

"The first step in getting the things you want in life is this: Decide what you want". Ben Stein


Better is a dinner of herbs where love is, than a stalled ox and hatred therewith. Proverbs 15:17


Here instruction, and be wise and refuse it not. Proverbs 8:33

Oh how I adore you
You are my Lord, my King
Your love is sweeter than honey
Richer than any trees salve
You take my hurt and impart your healing
You take my brokenness and create wholeness
Your love is overwhelming
At your feet is where one can find me
In the hem of your garment is such purity
I love you today more than ever
Thank you for taking care of me and exceeding my needs

I have had one to many lovers but you my God surpass them all
I can compare no one or nothing to you
Your love is so sweet
Your kindess is amazing
Your presence is intoxicating
The Lord of Lords, the King of Kings
Now, I understand why Mary poured precious oil on your feet
and wiped them with her hair
You are so good to me

I do not deserve you

yet you love me anyway

I am not sure what set this love affair I have with you in motion
Maybe it  is my willingness to lay bare and exposed before you

Maybe it it because I pant for you or cry until my eyes are dry

Maybe it is because I worship u because of who you are and not for what you do

I am not sure but this I do know
I am not the same
I am at authentic peace and I am simply overwhelmed
My mind is being renewed
My heart is being prepared
Thank you for teaching me how to be.....

"Eagles do not fly with pigeons".

So true. Elevate your inner circle. Only surround yourself with well meaning and well intentioned people. Successful people will tell you that they key to recreating your life begins with association. Remember the old saying "birds of a feather flock together"?

Align yourself with people that are smarter and better than you are so you can grow. If you are the smartest person in the room that is a problem and you have pigeons around you!

Soar today....with the Eagles.

I am so glad that I wrote this book. It has helped so many women and it has opened up dialog. I hope that as we are open and honest, we will begin on a journey towards healing and restoration.

My life has become an open book. I find myself sharing beyond the pages of the The Other Woman because I am seeing that the more I share, the more open and transparent I become the healthier I become. It is great to be in a place where you can expose yourself, your battles, your issues and dilemma's. Secrets are like cancer in the morrow of the bone. They eat you up from the inside out so TALK ABOUT IT!

Talk about whatever ails you, disappoints you or hurts you. Talk about the pains, the sorrows and well as the triumphs and victories. Talk about the victories too. Remembering what you have already overcome will be like hot air propelling you to soar above and over your current mountain.

"Everyday we have an opportunity to make right what needs to be right" DLP